Manifesting…

It’s Take Two Tuesday, so let’s do a take two on manifestation, shall we?

I’m not sure if I believe in manifesting the life you want (ala The Secret), as a lot of it screams white privilege to me….but I am very sure that you can’t get what you want until you actually know what you want!

To that end, I vulnerably share this list I made at the beginning of April 2018. A few months after being dumped by a boyfriend I thought would be around forever, and in the midst of a long-coming divorce from my then husband, I dove deep into the work of figuring myself out. There were feelings to express, childhood stuff to look at, shame and regret to shed, and only then could I begin to know what I wanted… because I finally knew myself. To be sure, this is a never ending process, as we’re always shifting and changing, but when I got clear on who I was, I got clear on what I wanted in a partner. It’s all in this list.

After writing it down, I was pretty sure I’d never find anyone that would come close, but you know what? That was ok. Through all that work, I’d also come to love myself so much that I’d rather be alone then settle for less ever again.

So, of course I met my now husband just a week later… and he was everything on this list and more. Manifesting? I doubt it. More like clarity. But, whatever you call it, knowing yourself deeply is the best path to finding what you want in life. That much I believe.

Today, I help my clients get clear on who they are first and foremost. From there, they are free to “manifest” whatever is authentic and true for them. What do you want? What is real and true for you?

Happy Tuesday, all!